Are any of these experiences familiar to you?
- You feel as if you are living entirely separate lives, and that you have little real contact
- You are having more and more disagreements with each other
- There is little or no emotional or physical intimacy
- You do not feel heard or understood
- You avoid having difficult conversations because you fear conflict
- You feel that you give more than you receive
- You often feel lonely
- You are having less and less fun together
- You are unsure whether your relationship still has a future
We are drifting further apart
Every relationship experiences moments of friction and tension. What start out as minor irritations can quickly become larger conflicts, especially if you do not communicate about what’s really going on. When you don’t express underlying feelings or needs, this can lead to mutual misunderstanding. And the distance between you only widens if you are unable to recognise and acknowledge each other’s vulnerabilities, or if you communicate in a defensive or accusing way instead of honestly sharing your feelings.
One means of breaking through these negative patterns is to use the non-violent communication approach. This method helps you to express your feelings and needs in a clear, respectful way, without attacking the other person, and creates a safe space for sharing emotions freely and without judgment. This allows you to acknowledge each other’s vulnerabilities, which is essential for restoring connection. We will be happy to help you restore the connection and intimacy that you have lost.
Possible approaches
- Relationship therapy
- Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)
- Non-violent communication
Just as the dog loves to chew bones, the human mind loves its problems – Eckhart Tolle
